MLC Walk Away Wife

[SirPrizeMe]

Tree, good day!

Hey I have a bunch of questions. First, for Zebra:

We all know approx. 50% of all marriages fail. 2nd marriages fail about 62% of the time, 3rd about 70%. I've read that approx 80% of all married couples are separated at sometime in their marriage for 2 months or more. (I know I've been separated by work for a month, and by emotion for months, even tho she never left). 14% of all divorced couples eventually remarry EACH OTHER!!! 2/3rds of all divorced couples would choose to stay married to each other if they could have solved the primary difficulties that led to the breakup. Many people who are divorced never seriously try to save the marriage before the divorce.

source? IS this really true or did you read this stuff in an email you got from a friend of a friend of a friend?

Second,

No kisses or hugs lately. I think the next time she trys to kiss me I may pull back for i don't like the feeling of kissing my grandmother. If she wants a real kiss that is fine but a kiss on the side of the lips or a one second peck does nothing for me. I am letting her drive that train.

If you want her to drive the train, then why would you pull back if she tries to kiss you? You don't like the peck-on-the-cheek kiss but a kiss is still a kiss. It is better than a kick in the pants, no? When you were first dating, did you expect her tongue the first time she kissed you? I'm not saying "you should let her kiss you," but I'm trying to figure out what is the balance point you are trying to achieve in the detach-versus-be-approachable thing. (being unapproachable is one of the big complaints against men, I hear) You gotta start somewhere, no? And what do you think about Grace's observation that "Love is Friendship on Fire" ?

third thing:

She said not to spend time alone yet because that is when she beats on me and to empower her. Tell her she is great at the things she does and so on. She really wants me to reduce contact with her until the anger is gone. She also said she does not like all the changes that i have made because it does not validate her actions and drive to S or D. She also said this is not a good stage for MC.

I guess the "reduce contact" means , no one-on-one time (just you and her), no suggestion of intimacy? Because the "move into friendship phase" would seem to suggest some kinda contact. or maybe Jody was saying, no physical contact ?