Bad klm for snooping lol. I am glad it was mostly good news though. Sounds like he just called her back, so that's definitely good.
How serious he was, and how serious you are, are two separate things. You owe him an answer I think. Even if your answer is that you are not ready for that, but that you are open to the idea eventually and will need to reevaluate in a month. And maybe even tell him that you need him to take a risk and start doing more work on the R before you will feel comfortable living together again.
Perhaps this is even an opportunity to validate more - tell him you understand how he feels, that you want to move in that direction too?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2