Oh, and Cagzmom,

This changes nothing. Nothing, do you hear me??? I am handling this today because of how far I have come. I just got done talking (IM) with my, uh, XH (wow, I never said that before), and there was a lot said.

I am normally pretty private, but I will share this with you:

P: But if we are to go anywhere from here, I need to know that it is not just sentiment and missing something you now can't have. I need it to be real. So, I guess we will see where we are down the road.
XH: again, I understand
P: Can you believe these words are coming out of my mouth? I am laughing...thinking how far I have come
XH: and I am loving it.
XH: I needed you to be this way.

The old me would have tried to wedge my foot in this door. The new me? I know that if it closes yet again that it wasn't meant to be open.