Husband, What an incredible conversation! The communcation was great. You are supporting her without pursuing her. You are setting boundaries without ranting and raving. Well done, my friend.
Hugs,
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I'd be cautious in telling her how she "should" feel - but otherwise sounds like things went SO well. I agree with Saffie, don't let it break down again - I think it'll really be up to you to keep it going, especially at first.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I'd be cautious in telling her how she "should" feel -
Yes NikB. I have read the books. I should have said " well at least you don't have to worry about our marriage or me leaving. this should help."
I Always watch for the telling her how "she feels" issue. Things are ok today. I have buryed my R feelings at this time. It is so hard. but I am going to do it. Oh ya by the way NikB. I forgot to mention she took the "I need sex" message how you thought she would. My Bad..
Later off to work on the tree house
Dr Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Where are you? You said you had some input.... I feel so vulnerable right now. I have my needs that I am putting aside to help W get her "head on straight" to help her get a job. I just don't know what to do. Lady called and there was no jobs for W. I still feel like an outsider. I need to put OM OUT OF MY MIND. HE IS NOT AN ISSUE. But so want to kick his A$$.
Ok Tonight I BBQ hamburgers and made some home made French fries. So w did not have to cook dinner. I went and got my 68 Mustang out of the Garages to I will drive it to work in the morning. Sorry but the male dog in me is trying to take over. I so need to have someone to hold.
Ok enough whinnying Later Dr Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Hang in there! Think PMA! Just wondering if you are going to push that ford to work in the morning. Just a little friendly slam from a chevy guy.
light switch
Light switch dude,
This is ford country. On a quiet night you can hear the Chevys rust...
Hey I have had my share of Chevys. 1963 & 1964 impala's. My uncle has a 1955 Chevy bel air I am hoping to inherit. Note to self... Next time Mustang is in garage for 2 months... Clean inside of windows........ By the way Light switch... Started right up love hearing that Dual Exhaust roar... A babe magnet dude... Only thing now days the ladies say..."my mom and dad had one of those". Ok last night was ok. Nothing bad. W did not get the jobs she was hoping for. I will be busy this weekend. If it does not rain I have a job to take out a tree that fell down. (Extra CASH). I also have set my mind on being around for a while so I can get back to work on my son's tree house. I am ALSO working on the camper so son and I can do some camping off of the Drive way.
ITS'S FRIDAY
My Reading Today, you should be on the lookout for some conflict to grow between the side of you that wants to take on greater responsibility and the side of you that just wants to have fun. This doesn't have to be a tug of war, though -- you can have it both ways! All you need to do is organize your day a bit more rigidly, and you will be able to enjoy yourself without letting other people down. Schedule yourself in 15-minute increments if you have to.
You ask me if I love you And I choke on my reply I'd rather hurt you honestly Than mislead you with a lie And who am I to judge you On what you say or do? I'm only just beginning to see the real you
And sometimes when we touch The honesty's too much And I have to close my eyes and hide I wanna hold you til I die Til we both break down and cry I wanna hold you till the fear in me subsides
Romance and all its strategy Leaves me battling with my pride But through the insecurity Some tenderness survives I'm just another writer Still trapped within my truth A hesitant prize fighter Still trapped within my youth
And sometimes when we touch The honesty's too much And I have to close my eyes and hide I wanna hold you til I die Til we both break down and cry I wanna hold you till the fear in me subsides
At times I'd like to break you And drive you to your knees At times I'd like to break through And hold you endlessly
At times I understand you And I know how hard you've tried I've watched while love commands you And I've watched love pass you by
At times I think we're drifters Still searching for a friend A brother or a sister But then the passion flares again
And sometimes when we touch The honesty's too much And I have to close my eyes and hide I wanna hold you til I die Til we both break down and cry I wanna hold you till the fear in me subsides
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
