Not sure where it's coming from, but I'd agree with you and Jenny to back off. I don't think it was any one thing you did (and OM might have a role in this too...perhaps he doesn't like it when you are around...and maybe she sees all this doing stuff as controlling her ability to see him, etc.) but just too much of you in general. You are like me. I'd say, "I hear you", when given similar advice, and then spend as much time with my wife as she'd want. I don't think the answer is to drop out of her life or to suddenly become cold, but to give her small doses of reality in increments. I'll mention one scenario. If she indicates again how she'll help with any aspect of YOUR house (such as painting), I respectfully decline (ie "that okay. I can get it. Thanks for the offer). Turn her down some on other things as well. I know you might not think so, but to me, you are chasing her. The Chuck E. Cheese thing wasn't a clear invite, so it would have been better to say, "have fun" at the start. If she then said, "you aren't going?", you could have said you couldn't. Basically, create a little more separation, and that includes IMing.
Last edited by Just_Me; 02/28/0808:00 PM.
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