Thanks Amy. I for one have found the resources to be very helpful. Infact the one of the most "helpful" things here.
I did not join this site thinking anyone here would solve my problems or marriage. I am an adult, it is up to me and me alone to take care of my life and my marriage. I see that as a given. I came here to be around other people who are living through the same life experience as I am and as a result understand the pain I feel, the grief, the loss, and the hardship I am going through.
Although we are not all the same people, we are connected through that experience. I just wanted a place that I could come and feel comfortable expressing my feelings knowing others would at least get it. If they had useful insights and helpful solutions all the better. But not even a professional can solve my life for me. I see two therapist full time. Their job is to guide me to better help myself, not tell me what to do. As far as non professionals, it is up to me to know that people here come for support and to be supportive of others, not to have all the answers for me. If some one is destructive that is one thing, but I find different views actually helpful as we are not all the same and one solution does not fit all.
I love the DB idea. I understood it as.. do what works and be creative and open about it, not just do this and only this.
