No, by no means does that in any way offend me. In fact, I have considered this myself, and you mentioning this gives me cause to chuckle.
Let me explain: Right after the bomb, my W insisted there was something severely wrong with me psychologically that I could become so depressed and emotionally detached from her, to the point of neglecting her (and her womanly needs). She insisted that I must be the carrier of any genetic defect that led to S7's AS and SID condition. So I enrolled in the University of North Carolina's TEACCH program (for AS and Autism Spectrum Disorders) to enroll S7 in this state-sponsored program and to get myself screened. My screening proved negative -- nothing in my psychological and emotional makeup that warranted any further testing. (I have since learned that my depression was the core reason for why I withdrew from her and from life, and explained my then emotional blindness as well.)
Now it is my understanding, and I am just a lay person in my studies of AS and HFA, but I believe that the jury is still out on whether there is a definitive genetic link to AS, and there is no widespread consensus on this as yet. I don't ever rule it our myself, as it would make some sense that there might be at least some genetic link to a predisposition towards having this disorder, but no one really knows just yet. The U of W program (funny, W and I had lived in the Seattle area for over three years, by coincidence) sounds to be focusing on trying to answer this question. (I'd really be interested in hearing more about it.)
Nevertheless, given that there are no conclusions about hereditary links to AS, and my W thinking of herself as a lay expert on the subject, she should know better than to assume one exists between S7 and myself. Still, she insisted and I did what it took to either prove or disprove her assertion (she has since moved on to find other explanations for why we are not meant to be together.)
When I originally began the paperwork to enroll S7 in the TEACCH program, I had started to enroll both of us parents in the screening process. W thought I was insane and being ridiculous for suggesting she might have AS herself. Her rationale is that she sees herself as a kind and highly empathic person, being a Registered Nurse in fact, that cares for others and has a proper reaction to the emotions of others. No way could she be the source of S7's AS, or so she assumes.
Again, this is one more thing that appears to be a projection of W's words, feelings and deeds upon me.
Husband (Dr. Love) had a response (right after my screening proved negative for AS) that I still chuckle about, "get your W tested!"
The question is, do I believe W has AS? No, not really, though it really wouldn't surprise me either. While I might enjoy entertaining the idea as a sweet irony, I don't think it helps our case one way or the other. W will never consent to having herself screened anyway.
As for the current behaviors of my W and your H, I think they're more typical of the WAS than AS. But what do I really know? They now say Autism Spectrum Disorders are far more prevalent in the population than people first realized. Maybe AS-like traits are inherent in all WAS' anyway?
But I am convinced that, at the very least, the WAS has had to have gotten what someone in the forums described as an "empathy bypass procedure."
