I do not believe anyone here is focusing on OP. They are merely venting.

Isn't that what we tell each other to do? Better to vent here rather than act out at home and/or to their S'es, wouldn't you agree?

I also think most of the LBS's anger and frustration has to do with the fact that OP is an individual who is totally aware that they are involved with a M'ed person, and yet they choose to ignore it; they have their own agendas. I think that makes it much more difficult to deal with had OP been someone who was deceived as well. Like my sitch, for example. OW was a complete stranger - H not only lied to me, he lied to her, too. She had absolutely no knowledge of H being M'ed with children. Fortunately, she did the right thing and walked away (with a little help from me, of course).


Last edited by GoingForward; 02/28/08 06:54 PM.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell