Good point OT, and you are absolutely right. There are a lot of sides to this whole thing and I'm just examining one that doesn't always get considered. Especially in the heat of anger....
But part of focusing on oneself is being a better person and trying to make the best out of situation (especially when children are involved). However, you are right. Focusing on oneself (self-improvement, healing, creating a great life, etc...) should be the main goal.
P.s. But I'm human too and the idea of getting a wee little revenge on OP (and husband too), by proving I am a great person and it's a good family, and knowing OP is going to have a hard time competeing with that.... well, it does tend to make the whole situation just a little bit easier in the eariler stages. It's creates a little "jumpstart" to help with GALing.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
