Finding my way out of the dark

[missmyfriend]

She reacted better than I thought although I could tell that it made her a little sad. We have discussed her mom trying to find out who she is and what she is supposed to do is overshadowing the important things in life so I think that helps her to feel this is a temporary thing. It really isnt like my W to be this way. She was very much into our kids before MLC struck.

About your H, you won't be able to count on him for anything right now. For me, if I need to do something, I have to make arrangements with others. For example, I am going to be more active in my two sons scouting activities so I have asked my mom to watch my D when I am gone.

I understand about the control issue of our absent spouses. My W has pretty much dictated that the house will remain so the kids can grow up in this house even though she has not provided a dime toward the mortgage, utilities, taxes or upkeep. This is her justification for "leaving" the kids with me. "You can handle the payments better than I could" according to her.

Frustration is understandable.