WAW....now the LBS

[brantacan]

Unfortunately I had to cut back on the phone sessions due to finances (even though I am willing to break the bank with the intensive???). I've been left w/a fat mortgage to pay for by myself (i'm sure many of us are in that boat). Anyway, probably need to re-think this and get back in touch w/coach. Again, back to the basics. The intensive in my sitch is analagous to that "one perfect conversation" and i've been too focused on getting us to Michele.

anyway, to answer your question about inviting her to do other things, yes I have to a degree. Movie, dinner, walk w/the dogs...but she declines. Says she can't be doing stuff w/me like that when she's seeing somebody else. That was also her initial response to the intensive invite: "I can't go out of state w/you for a weekend when I'm in another relationship, that's just not appropriate", but then said she'd consider. I've managed to bite my tongue in these situations, but it makes my blood boil. She is obviously still clinging to OM and probably fears that taking a chance on me again could be too risky (i.e. could lose me and OM). She's admitted recently (last R talk)that her and I are way more compatible and a better fit and have much more in common; so I'm guessing he's obviously wooing her in the romance dept right now. He's been divorced twice, has an exW that wants him back, and 2 kids (that my W is not super fond of). So, I just don't get it???? Maybe it's not about either of us (me or OM). Maybe W is struggling w/something else that I'm just missing.