She wants him to get a hobby. He doesn't have any. She said SHE would find one for him. She said he is the type of person who clings to other people.
This bothered me too. That's why I said that I hoped she intended to help him recognize what his issues were, but would let HIM take the steps and make the decisions.
It did seem VERY odd to me.
As for a counselor, I highly recommend you see one. Unless you live in the middle of nowhere, and have only one counselor available, I can't imagine why you would see your husband's counselor. Personally, I can't imagine the counselor being willing to see both of you individually.
Make sure that your motivation in EVERYTHING is motivated by improving Kissak and her children, NOT gathering information about your husband, your future, or his desires. Nothing good would come from that in my eyes.
Again, a counselor for you is a great idea. I saw one twice a week after the bomb, once a week after that, then twice a month down to once a month. All of this over a 6 month period, paid for by my employers insurance except for co-pay. It was a life saver for me. Of course, I had a GREAT counselor too.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
