part of me is often stuck in that old mindset that one perfect conversation will win her back. it's tempting to want to fast forward when you have a few good interactions, but wise DB know to be cautious. thank God for the forum.
I understand. This has been my problem as well. I become anxious when things are going well and I use to think that there was one perfect conversation to win him back (some books will claim this is so). I soon realized these thoughts and actions set me back. My marriage didn't take a turn for the worse in one conversation so it certainly isn't going to make a turn for the better in one.
Sounds like you are back on track and you know what works. Do you have a telephone coach? If so, what does he or she say about going dark? I think you may want to share time together other than just mediation and everyday things in order to build your friendship. By getting along with her in these sitches just shows her that you can have an amicable divorce, but you want to show her that you can rebuild your relationship. Have you invited her to do things you know that she likes to do or something new that she is interested in him. Best wishes.
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