What exactly are you considering physical intimacy? That would indicate to me you are speaking of touching, caressing, kissing, etc - which is foreplay. and the whole reason for foreplay is to transition into sexual intercourse.
I really don't think the whole reason for foreplay should be the expected transition into intercourse. I really do enjoy foreplay just for foreplay. Really. Honestly.
Originally Posted By: Mom of 2 Cherubs
Foreplay gets you excited, and then if your wife says ok enough of this "physical intimacy" i'd like to got to sleep now or i need to go do the dishes - you will be left feeling frustrated and wishing more had happened.
Of course it gets me excited. That is only natural and to be expected, but you are trying to mind read on the feelings H may be having. I could understand if the sexual encounters are few and far between, that having foreplay and then stopping short would be frustrating (for both parties). I believe that regular acts of intimacy are a great way to help build that sexual desire and tension. Being flirty and maybe a little naughty. It would be like going out and having just appetizers when your not in the mood for the full meal or just don't have the time. Sometimes the appetizers are just better in that particular restaurant, but you still should experience the full five (or seven) course meal everyonce in a while.
Originally Posted By: Mom of 2 Cherubs
And most likely she can pick up on that feeling of yours...and then you would not be telling the truth that you are ok with just 5 or 10 minutes of physical intimacy.
Really, truly... I'm okay with just 5 or 10 minutes of appetizers and really do prefer that myself sometimes over the full meal. Or maybe sometimes just a salad. I think it is just like most other things in life. You need to maintain a balance. Some level of daily intimacy is good and healthy and keeps both parties interested, but I do understand it is not an obligation or a duty. It should be enjoyed by both.
