I like that he needs to get a hobby. It's something that will allow him to think while being busy. Sounds like some introspection is in order here.
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Why wont anyone help us? Help me?
The world isn't against you sweetie. I think this is the time to learn to help yourselves, sperately. You have us here and while we can't solve it for you, we can listen and suggest. Re-read Lin's post. I find what she tells you really valuable. Yes, it's hard.
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Why are people quick to offer solutions on how to move on, but not work on a marriage?
You two aren't in a place to work on the M. I'm not either and it hurts and it's sad. It doesn't mean giving up, it means you're not in the right place.
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I want to know what we would need to do to make things work. After he got to know himself that is....
Umm, you're falling into lines of thought best left alone for now. Time and keeping busy with becoming the best kissak you want to be will help with this and the feelings you're dealing with.
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I feel like things are hopeless. My last little threads of hope are breaking.....I dont know how to feel. I want someone to talk to about it.
If you want/need a C for yourself. Do it. It does help to have someone to talk with. They have alot of good suggestions and it will help you to find you own just by using them as a sounding board.
I will say that even though their experience can be really helpful. ultimately you will have decisions and choices that are your and you have to own them and their ramifications.
