they don't understand that I'm standing, that he's sick...needs help he doesn't want....I love him...and they want me to give up on him and get over him...
I can't do that, I don't want to do that...not yet...I'm not done yet...just scared...
No, people don't understand, but we do. That's why divorce is so common, because people give up. But you're standing. Good for you. I'm glad.
People want you to "Get over him" because they don't want to see you hurt. Nobody does. DBing says - take care of yourself! It's not about you, it's him. Be strong for yourself. So really it is the same sentiment you hear from your friends. They don't want you to be hurt either. They want you to take care of yourself too.
The key is, you can do both. You can take care of yourself AND stand for marriage at the same time. You don't need to "cut him loose" in order to take care of yourself. Well, I don't, anyway.
At some point you may decide, enough is enough. Sounds like you are not there yet. Sounds like you want to stand. Good.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
