Let his negatives/resentment/no chance/comments, etc roll off you like water on a ducks back. You cannot live your life think in terms of "why won't he reconsider". I know it hurts, I life all the time with that thought. You must GAL, 180, PMA, etc...it's the only way to give you your life back. Mine told me as recently as Sunday night that I never ever ever will have a chance. Then spent the next 40 minutes a listing reason and then letting me tell her "the Lord has forgiven me, I am determined to never be that man again, I am so sorry I made you feel that way, I ask that you forgive me." Then next reason. Or acknowledging my changes calling me SuperDad and 5D adores me...who knows what is on her mind. But I'll tell you what, that conversation would have never occurred had she consider me being the same person as she left. Not only am I convinced that I will life a positive healthy fulfilling life for myself, I am also absolutely certain my WAW will reconsider. And this is, like I said, as recently as Sunday, she said, "you will never ever ever get a chance, why can't you get that through your thick head." Water off a duck...You must stop thinking/feeling so negatively. If you diffuse your negative emotions that's half the battle. In reading, "Hope for the Separated" by G. Chapman, you have a choice, you can choose to love them regardless or you can choose another route. I choose to love her unconditionally. Lose the resentment. Takes time.
