One other question I'd like your input on, if you can give it.
I had been away from these boards for a few months, doing quite well on GAL. When W asked for the divorce, I was not surprised. Hurt, but not surprised and ready to move forward. I have been, overall, quite good at living in the moment and not the past or the future.
However, I'm wondering what my return to the boards means. I'm reading again, posting again here and trying to help others. I read one of your posts to breton39 and am wondering if the same situation applies to me. You advised breton39 to "trust your instincts." I wonder why I'm back here now. What does that mean??? I wonder if I am indeed ready for the D, still holding some (misguided?) hope for reconciliation, or perhaps, at minimum, not as far along in my grieving over the loss of the M as I had once thought I was. I've read all sorts of stories (perhaps too many!) about people ending in divorce, pulling back at the last minute, etc.
W still hasn't given me any sign of willing to work on reconciliation, nor is she moving forward, as far as I can tell, with the D.
Thanks for any light you can shed here. I'm surprised by this turn of events, but perhaps it's part of the ride we all go through when a long relationship, however imperfect, smashes up.
