I am so confused, not sure what hand I am playing

[Snow White]

What a way to lose weight, huh?!!

Sad thing is I did lose a lot of weight and was getting a lot of compliments prior to finding this all out and now when and if it goes public everyone will think it was all because of this.

If you're not sure, then I think it's safe to say that no boundaries are being crossed. If they were, I don't believe we would be seeing these positive steps coming from your H.

But again, I don't know what your limits are so it is hard to say.

I have been purposely not looking up the info on the cell phone, the bill should come in by the end of the week. I am nervous, I know there will be texts the night of the super bowl, I know there will be texts from when we were in FL. I am afraid of seeing calls again,(tehre were none for Dec-Jan) he says there are none, but he will consistently deny anything to avoid the current conversation. I am afraid of seeing that there were calls the days I was at my parents house when he claimed he could not get his answers because she was refusing to speak to him based on my text. I am trying not to be afraid and just waiting for the bill. I am going to suggest to him that when the bill comes we sit down together and look at it and discuss anything that is on it. My wish is that he would tell me before I see it. What has happened up until now is I have waited until he left then looked up stuff and went near insane when I found things. At least I have a plan.

Time for thought-stopping. Work on your PMA and towards your goals. Focus on you.

Ok I actually sang in the car this morning. And called the radio station, and got through, and thought for sure I won but I gave the wrong answer, what do they know??? Don't you think that 92% of people eat or drink while driving??

This might be something you'd like to bring up in MC. Explain how it makes you feel when seeing OW's name on facebook. It's a constant reminder of something you wish to eventually forget (for the most part). When discussing this, don't become angry or lash out with something like, "Why can't you just erase her name?! Do you hope to still talk with her?!" NO. Again, explain how it makes you feel. Express something like, "When I see (OW)'s name on facebook, I feel very insecure, scared, afraid. If her name was deleted, it would help to reassure me. I would feel safer."

I believe that his reason for keeping her as a friend is because he is nosey and wants to see what other people are doing on her profile, I don't think he is talking to her on there - but he does on occasion go to her page and see if other people have given her gifts ect. Still doesn't make me feel great that he even cares.


On a brighter note, I got a tea again last night No phone calls the entire day but at 8:20 a text asking if I wanted a tea on his way home from work and then a call at 8:30 since I hadn't responded to the text. He talked a lot, about work, but still a lot last night. She came up once during the conversation but not even her name just as the "she" who conned his friend from another store out of a couch and that he was riding his friend about it all day because he was beaten at his own game. another plus, to me at least, is the new guy that transferred into his store he likes. He was having a real issue after she left that the 3 people in the store he did not get along with and she was his only point of contact who he could talk to about the 3 because she worked with them too. Now he has a new, male, partner in crime.