Choices

[KarenMarieS]

Hey Pam
Noooo dont think I would put myself in a sit w/ ex and his chickie lol but come to think of it, it wouldnt bother me not a tich how it would of a few years back! and you are right, I would look at them and say, either of them , well HIM anyway, would stab someone in the back in a heartbeat! Who wants to be known for that!

Glad it was a good experience for you!

and it dosnt cause me angst to talk about tex no more, i am soooooooo over it as my niece would say lol

[Survival_Goddess]

I have never seen my ex and his OGIRL together. He has been a little different from the other ex spouses here. He has kept her somewhat hidden. I don't think he ever introduced her to his family. He did introduce her to the kids, but I don't think it was the kind of thing where she was glued to his hip at all times. She was used to being hidden, and he and/or she kept it that way.

I have a feeling she is no longer in the picture...partially because of that pathetic V-day message on my cell.

SG

[psluke]

Hi K,

It isn't an ideal situation but it is the only solution I can find. If I want to continue with my dogs I'm going to see them all the time. No way around it unless I or they move to another area so we aren't traveling in the same circles.

It wasn't a good experience exactly but it felt good to have faced it. Know what I mean?

I'm glad there is no angst for you when Tx comes up on the thread once in a while.






Hi SG,

That really is different. Wish I didn't see my ex and ex friend! But not going to happen.

You know I find I can wish him happiness if he ever finds someone real to spend his life with but as long as he chooses to be her whipping boy I don't see him ever truly being happy. I could also be very wrong and that is totally wishful thinking.

Her ex just says he hopes she makes D as happy as she did him in their marriage and then he gives this evil laugh! Now I doubt he ever gives them a thought. He doesn't run into them like I do and he has really moved on with his life. So happy for him as he is such a nice man and was so much help when I was having such a rough time going through the d and afterwards for a good while as well.

[Livnlearn]

Well done Pam for facing that obstacle squarely and overcoming it! It will all get easier with time, as you see that J got the booby prize.

Don't know if I posted on here about a similar thing - went with Sis to a nice local restaurant when she was over, and the head waiter who knew ex and I as regular customers, greets me and then looks worried and says that my ex is already in the restauant. My heart did skip a tiny amount, but I found myself saying, no problem, and as he was around the corner of the L-shaped room I would take a table not in his line if sight, and would be fine. And I was. D12 arrived a little later and I told her about her Dad so she popped over to chat with him for a minute. I rather fancy that he waited a good long while as it was our group that got up first and left, without seeing him. He would have had to pass by our table if he had left first. Actually, I think he didn't want to bump into my sis, who is quite terrier like in the face of ex. Whatever, I stood my ground. It is truly the shameless that have no shame, obvious, isn't it?

[psluke]

Hi LNL,

Thanks for the encouragement. I do think it will keep getting easier. The first time I saw them at a dog show was rough but each time afterwards it has been a bit better. The time she came and stood right close to me for a good part of the day was sort of like flooding. You get so much of something and you become much more desensitized.

I won't pretend it wouldn't be easier to get back into my hobby if he had left for someone that wasn't into dogs and I basically never saw he or his OW again. But that isn't the hand I was dealt so the fur kids and I will deal with it and move forward.

Good for you on going in the restaurant anyway! I agree the shameless, have no shame. I know in the beginning I felt ashamed for him that he was behaving in the manner he was, that makes no sense I know but I felt it!

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good for you pam!!!

hope your day is warm and sunshiny!!!

[psluke]

well sunshiny but not warm!

Tomorrow supposed to be warmer. Come on Spring!!

[psluke]

So anyone here any good at guessing what mortgage rates might be going to do?

I had 2 or 3 people at different places a couple of weeks ago recommend that I wait till after March 18th. Now no one seems to know what is going to happen as rates keep climbing up.

Now it isn't nearly as good to refinance my house. I did find out that if I should list it for sale I can't refinance while it is listed. Just picking up little tid bits here and there but still it is all a bit overwhelming!

[HappyToday]

Pam,

I wouldn't begin to guess. Nobody really knows what the fed will do. But they're really low right now.

Was glad to hear you went to the doggie show. After all, why should YOU stop doing the things you love to do because of something he and she once did.

It isn't your embarrassment to have, but I know how you feel. I too once couldn't hold my head up because of what X did.

Don't know why, but that's the way is was.

Keep up to the good work Pam.

[psluke]

Hi Happy,

That is what the guy I was talking to today said, "it is an interesting time to be working in finance"

Thing is the rate I can get right now is only .1 below what I have so not really worth the cost to refinance.

I am going to keep it up. I enjoy my doggies. Have met some real and great friends through them.

I'm pretty keyed up this evening a lady that is looking for another dog to train and show till she picks her next prospect and has it up to show age is interested in my 3 year old that had the puppies last year to train and show. That is way cool as I have too many to focus on all of them myself and I'm still giving my time to the 2 older girls knowing they have limited time left to show. So this is a pretty cool opportunity! My girl may not fit the bill but at least she is going to get the chance to try out.