Thanks for visiting. You came to the right place. We will support, and encourage you every step of the way! This board has a wealth of information. Please take the time to read through the forums.
Michele Weiner-Davis is the host of this site. Please read her book, "Divorce Remedy". It's the current version of her acclaimed book, "Divorce Busting".
I know that this time is difficult. But, you'll get through this. You can apply the GAL approach. It requires that you stay away from relationship issues, pursue new interests, and do things without him. When you see him, be polite and upbeat. Do not pursue, nag, or let him see you cry. Your H is an *alien*; do not fuel the fire. This approach takes practice, and patience. We listed practical steps right within this forum. It is worth the read.
Michele believes in solutions, and you'll see how important it is. If you dwell on what he's doing, you'll go crazy. At this moment, you need to ask yourself, "What can I do to remain busy?" It sure feels better than having a pity party. Regardless of the outcome, you will come out stronger.
If you desire to speak to a solution-based therapist, do not hesitate to contact Michele's staff. They will coach you along the way. Michele believes, solutions solve problems! That said, problems make you insane with BLAME!!!
Please keep your mind off of the possible OW. Why should you waste your energy on her? CONCENTRATE ON YOU!!!!!
