W has not asked for forgiveness, and she's nowhere near contrite. So how do I forgive that. Also what she did was no accident, There was a lot of planning, lies, deceit, etc so I'm still finding that hard to deal with and yes hard to forgive. But I'm having a good think about the approach CL has suggested cos at the very least it will get me actively thinking about the emotions that I will be feeling rather than let them churn around inside me then erupt in small out bursts. So at least I've got a route or a positive step towards forgiveness.
Hey Kalni,
Originally Posted By: Kalni 02/02/08
get a book called ILY but I am not in love by Andrew G. Marshall. Don't get worried with the title. It is very optimistic and is an "eye opener". As far as I am concerned it is a great book. It has 2-3 chapters on how to get back on track after a crisis. Sexually, mentally, with your hearts...
I've started reading this but I think I'm gonna skip straight to the post crisis chapters you mentioned cos I think they are most relevant to my current status.
