Why is W happy with me moving ....... since day one she has had a little fantasy about how life will play out. It involves her moving closer to her job and me moving close to her and my work. She then figures that she will live happily ever after with OW and her and I will be friends and parents to our kids. In short every one living a happy life on her terms.
I think that she has an underlying idea that the damage she is casuing isn't really her fault because she thinks that she is a lesbian now and that's just the way it is and there is nothing she can do about that.
Anyway, when I decided to keep the house it totally screwed up her fantasy. She never told me this directly but she told a friend of hers who told her husband who told me (in a you've gotta be kidding me kind of way).
so now that I've decided to move, it means her fantasy is coming back together and she is happy about that. (probably the fact that she lives in a dump and has no money is my fault because I'm keeping her from her fantasy by not living where she wants)However, she will have to move too and she has told me that she has looked but is having a hard time finding a place. I think this is a financial issues but she doesn't say and I don't ask. I also think that there is a lot of pressure from OW to move so that she doesn't have to take the kids as far but I'm not sure about that.
All is well with me. I am extremely busy at work (I'm working right now at midnight) and that has kept me off the boards and from doing much else. My house is a huge mess because I only go there to sleep right now and I haven't GAL in over a month. But being busy means more money, so that is good.
How are things with you?
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
