Welcome, and sorry you're here (I know what you mean Lis )
Not much to add at this early stage, other than possibly to make a list of "must-haves" and "negotiable" items to go to the mediator with. To me, the one who wants or is driving the D should pay for the mediator, although I understand it doesn't always work out that way and also may be something that isn't a big deal to some.
But Ian is right, there are lots of folks here who will help you with this stage of your journey, with advice or simply support - and although I haven't seen you around before since you were in other forums, I know that anyone that makes a good impression on Ian has got to be good peeps.
It gets so much better - see ya around....
Kev
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius
"God alone decides the contest; but we must put our shoulders to the wheel." -Adm. D.G. Farragut
Kevin-38; XW-36 M-2.5, together 4 Bomb-1/6/07; D-6/27/07
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