Cagzmom,

I know how you are feeling. I can remember all the times I wished for a way to make my memory disappear like in that "Eternal Sunshine" movie (Jim Carrey), because then I wouldn't have to hurt so much.

I also know that almost 2.5 years later (yes, my H moved out that long ago) I can look at it all and be thankful for all that has happened. I didn't want them, but, man, I needed some of the lessons I have learned along the way. Now I wouldn't trade them for the world.

You are not a failure! Why, why, why do you look at your H with those rose colored glasses, and yourself under a microscope???
I just wrote a bunch of stuff about your H but erased it. This is about YOU. YOU...the girl who is smart and funny (my observations) and all of the other things that you mentioned earlier!

I am going to ignore your question about "why find me?" because I understand what bad Olivia Newton John kareoke will do to a person. ;\) So, go take care of your sniffles, as we all take a step back there every now and again. But, tomorrow, my dear, is a new day, and we will be right back here working on YOU.

Czm, I don't say a lot about my sitch anymore, but if you had any idea what was going on over here maybe you would be able to understand better just how much I do understand. I am not that far removed from where you are. I have just learned, in all of this time, that my H's actions have nothing to do with who I am.

Hey, do you get Oprah magazine? If you do, read this month's article on happiness. It is awesome.

And, did you Youtube the Matt Damon video yet? If that doesn't get a smile out of you, I don't know what will!

We're here for you, Cagzmom. I know that having Mer and Betsey on my side made my life sooooo much sweeter. Hell, you even have IMP here! Honey, you're doing something right!

Hugs to you,
Pam