Hi sh- Is there such a thing as doing a decent job of paving the way back home?...isn't it ultimately (as long as we are still willing) up to them to finally put forth the effort to confront their fears...put forth the effort to move toward us and away from the bandaid.
I believe this is really just a waiting game...because there are many MLCers that do figure things out...it just takes time. It is up to us to decide if we want to give them the time knowing that there is no guarantee.
It is completely up to you to decide if you want to give it more time or if you are done. If our spouses could at this moment put 1/1000th of the effort we LBS's put into our marriages, many more of our marriages would be restored.
So, what more do you think you could do? I think living your life and being happy while being open to possibilities would be the best path you could pave.
