I don't have time to go into them but, the fog is definately lifting and H is remorseful. His new life w/ow isn't the paradise that he expected but it's what he has chosen for himself. We can't go back ... the innocence of what our M was pre-A's is gone forever. Sad..
I truly don't get your H. Are you really saying that he wishes you weren't D'ing? This isn't the first time he's said something like that recently. I remember you said it was too late then, too. Are you sure? What if you did Retrouvaille?