What do you do to GAL? It sounds like every minute that you aren't at work is with her. Do you have even one single evening that's just you?
Recently I've just been working on stuff at my house and occasionally doing stuff with friends. The weather is horrible, and there doesn't seem to be too much to do that catches my interest.
Originally Posted By: Just_Me
Is this what life will be with her...one devoted entirely to trying to make her happy when she doesn't choose to be? To avoiding disagreements? You stated your points about OM and they were valid. If she has a problem with that then it's her problem and not yours. Even if you were happily married the amount of effort you put towards her doesn't make sense.
Honestly, going back even before we were married, my W had lots of ups and downs. I initially just wrote them off (as you do), as being down to us trying to integrate our lives and dealing with the day to day 'living together' stuff. Pretty much a good chuck of our R has been me trying to 'smooth things over'. I wouldn't go as far as to say she doesn't choose to be happy, but she really has no idea how to be happy. This isn't something new - She has talked about feeling unfulfilled and has made numerous comments about suicide. I doubt she wouldn't do anything now we have D, but you never know.
Originally Posted By: Just_Me
You don't have to go dark, but you might want to take a step back. At least pick a couple days a week where you have a planned activity that does not allow for you to grab dinner together, etc. You might be in this for the long haul. You might want to find something that recharges your batteries.
I agree - I'm going to try to setup some evenings out with friends on regular week days to break this stupid cycle we're in. Going dark never seems to work out too well, but I'm going to leave contact in W's court for now.
