Meredith..your 5 years continuned.

[cagzmom]

[quote=Underdog]Cagzmom,

I think many of us were fuzzy on the boundaries and not very wise in knowing the difference between a threat and enforcing a boundary. I often sat around wondering why I would tolerate behavior from some people that I would NEVER tolerate from my children. Then I began to realize that if I didn't stand up for myself all of the time, nobody else would. Basically, I was teaching others how to treat me by the way I treated myself.

Probably one of the main reasons I have moved forward (or tried). That in SHOWING my children that a HUMAN deserves to be treated with dignity and respect.

Just an example, and maybe this will hit close to home for some. Why would I allow someone to lie to me when I would hold someone else's feet to the fire?

Yeah - funny how they "make" their way into your life so that the lie becomes the norm. The truth a surprise...

Good for you in enforcing the boundary for friendship. That's a start. It's unfortunate that he chose the way he did, but it's better that you honored yourself by taking better care of you after he made that choice.

Where do you need more support in this regard?

I guess I know what I know. He said on Saturday that when he made the choice to go with ow that he had decided he needed to "Stick with the original decsion he had made..." what the H***! Support? I dont know..I just wish I could really really see him through the eyes of my friends and others and not mine.

How do you switch your heart? Thats what I want.