Whatever you do, don't ask HER mom to help drive YOUR agenda. That will backfire. While it is frustrating for you and the kids, your W is her mom's daughter and mom wants to support her. Mom doesn't know what goes on behind closed doors.

The Divorce Remedy book will help you, as will participating on this board.

Right now, the only person you can control is yourself, so get to work on him! If you think you will have trouble with your goals, tell us about it. Many of us are in similar situations and may be able to help.

Oh, and don't call her "the wife" again! Most women hate that!

Me: 54
Her: 50 and sexy as hell
M: 32yrs
T: 34yrs
Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection"
Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire"
She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08!
Everything's GREAT!