What do you “just know” about your spouses’ behavior? Can you predict when your spouse is going to be in a good mood or a bad mood? What would you like to suggest to your spouse that you can predict a negative response to?
Michele’s states that while [b]“you think you ‘re predicting the future, you’re actually creating it.”
“When you expect negative outcomes, you telecast your expectations in very sublte ways. So subtle, that you’re not even aware that you’re doing it” But your partner picks up these messages and responds negatively. In other words, you’re creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.”
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Is this a glib... 'act as if' and your spouse will come back. No.
But is it helpful to expect the best rather than the worst....ESPECIALLY in interactions with your spouse....yes.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
