Many of you may have your spouse living with you or you have children where you still may interact quite a bit. Many have conflicts still going on with the spouse.....heated or non-heated...where there is tension.
You aren't completely helpless, just like you aren't at work or with your children.
If your struggles aren't fruitful---you can CHANGE something--ANYTHING.....and your patterns of interacting will necessarily change as well.
The only thing that would not be a good idea, is to do the same thing that has been proven over and over again to not be working.
examples:
CHANGE THE WHEREHave you noticed that you and your partner frequently have conflicts in the same location? Is it always in the bedroom, kitchen, living room .... or bathroom
Write down WHERE it is that you usually have your conflicts.
(G and I were always having our arguments in the new house he was building)
CHANGE THE WHEN Do you and your partner have conflicts most frequently after work? During dinner? The first thing Saturday morning? After a family gathering?
Are there events or holidays that trigger a conflict?
What is the worst time to approach your partner?
When do you think you could get a better response (notice not perfect) from your partner?
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
