Sue, If it makes you feel any better, my H is now seeing me in a whole different light. In the midst of D proceedings, he is telling me what a wonderful, beautiful woman I am. And guess what?? He couldn't blame me and despise me enough a year ago. I was this horrible wife who couldn't do any of her "wifely duties" well. My point is that sometimes you just have to let go - even if it's only for a short time - so that your H can see you in a different light.
Embrace this separation as a time to discover you again. Easy to say.. so very hard to do.
