The spouse opens up their mouth and lets the words about potentially reconciling come out.
Just to clarify - it was me that opened my mouth and it was a deliberate, calculated move on my part.
Originally Posted By: Just_Me
It's just my experience, but the WAS actually doesn't beat around the bush if they are considering reconciling.
Let's hope this is correct; something I get consistently from this board is "we don't really know". And when they are forthcoming back off a bit and be really cautious.
Originally Posted By: Just_Me
Maybe you should detach a bit, avoid negative interactions (since those are usually pretty easy to spot), focus on what you are doing, and wait to be hit on the side of the head when/if she's making a giant leap.
Yes, that's about all I can do really; been doing this the last 4 months; but I do not want to go "dark" again as long as things are positive overall even if I feel eaten up on the inside.
Originally Posted By: Just_Me
Sometimes things on here slow down quite a bit and responses aren't real quick. If you feel that being on here though is holding you back from detaching, then take a step back. Post infrequently.
In my case, no responses cause me to want to not post, feel negative, throw in the towel, give up the fight.
Any take on why the WAS goes from consistently angry to generally friendly? I'm guessing we don't really know?
