Cat,
these forums are for lots of reasons. I too was headed for D, and found lots of support and advice here. MLC or not, hurt or not, you will need someone friends who can be here for you.

I propose you stay around and see what happens.

Bomb 1/06
D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature.
Divorce final October 31, 2008.
OW looks like bad history. Over.
Still hopeful. Baby steps.
In R with my X.