Worried I found DB too late

[newnamenewlife]

I feel sad when I look at my rings too. I usually wear my engagement ring and wedding ring, but a few weeks ago I took off my engagement ring. H&I both still have our wedding rings on. I have thought about taking mine off, but my D11 would notice in a heartbeat; she noticed that my engagement ring was off.

I also looked at our wedding album recently, which made me cry. And we have this incredible needlepoint framed over our bed that my aunt made in honor of our wedding. I keep wondering what do people do with all the stuff--years of photos, etc--when they split up? It just breaks my heart. My wedding dress is boxed and up in my in-laws attic. Do I get that back from them if we D?

Obviously, there are more important concerns--like the KIDS--but all the stuff and the symbols of married life that one loses are very painful things to consider too.