H never came back from Iraq, part 3

[MichelleLT]

That's exactly it! I like the different languages thing!

I think my H shows it more with actions, I show it more with words??? But if things don't change to how he thinks they should be, he doesn't see it as a "real" apology because it's just words??? Whereas my darling H has rarely uttered the words "I'm sorry" since he was 7 and his stepdad told him to quit apologizing and just stop doing it! Apparently H took those words to heart lol.

So far, on the letter, I think it's gonna start like this:

H,

The things that have happened in the last eight months have opened my eyes to a lot of things and forced me to reassess my priorities.

I tend to let myself get caught up in things. It is easy for me to push through stress and difficult times by telling myself it will be over soon. But as a result, I bury my head in the sand and ignore a lot of other very important things.

I am sorry that you felt ignored and unloved when I went back to school....that's where I start running out of ideas. I'm trying to figure out if I want to go into specifics (the fact that I dragged him to a lot of things he didn't enjoy, invited my friends over whom he didn't like (but didn't tell me that), and did not make time to do the things we used to enjoy) and list a lot of things or whether the details will just make it bulky and boring.