Once she is out of that and living with him though and she's been "rescued", and then he's living with her, I wonder how things will go.
Not very well. Unless something within him has drastically changed, he will bring his real personality, baggage and everything to that new place and then reality will set in...not pretty.
I have read stuff about the "Knight in Shining Armor" thing as well and believe it to be true. I know the OW in my H's case is very dysfunctional and is addicted to gambling just like he is. She has a D12 and lives with her parents...
They are a match made in heaven (eye-roll!! lol!)
My mom always told us, "Don't ask for something you really don't want because you just might get it" and I think it is so true with these types of relationships. Eventually reality has to come into play...I hope.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Ditto for me, the ow was in an abusive realtionship with someone she needed to get away from, she needed H to help her "get the courage to leave" find a house, ect. She was also being harassed by her previous boss, stalked by a coworker and a victim of aquaintance rape by one of her closest friends, she then dropped out of school because everyone was so mean to her and even the teachers thought she was a liar.
He was just being a good friend and always ends up the bad guy.....
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
She sounds like quite a prize. Never a dull moment there, huh? Not very helpful, but aren't you glad that you aren't that messed up as a person.
How can 1 person have that much drama in their life?
Stay strong.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Drama queen is the exact term I used, of course I know we are not supposed to talk down about ow to our H's but he was able to go a whole month with no contact with her outside of work, on our trip to florida 2 weeks ago "all of a sudden" everyone at their work found out that they had an encounter in early december. I asked him, if it did not come from her how do you think that everyone found out? Was she just not getting enough attention, could it be you were on a trip with your family?
Since she moved out a week ago, her daughter has been kidnapped by her boyfriend, and perhaps molested, none of which she seems to report to anyone but the associates at every store in the chain that she works at in the region.
Oh wait, and I am a very mean person because when I found out about everything the week of Christmas I was not sympathetic to the fact that she got no Christmas presents.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
Needless to say, we know who's list she was/is on this year!
She sounds like a total lunatic and hopefully your H will get his fill sooner rather than later. She sounds unstable at best and hopefully she is not a "bunny boiler" (Fatal Attraction), Scary monsters.
Sometimes you have to laugh at it to keep from screaming. I'll keep you in my prayers.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Needless to say, we know who's list she was/is on this year!
She sounds like a total lunatic and hopefully your H will get his fill sooner rather than later. She sounds unstable at best and hopefully she is not a "bunny boiler" (Fatal Attraction), Scary monsters.
Sometimes you have to laugh at it to keep from screaming. I'll keep you in my prayers.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Needless to say, we know who's list she was/is on this year!
She sounds like a total lunatic and hopefully your H will get his fill sooner rather than later. She sounds unstable at best and hopefully she is not a "bunny boiler" (Fatal Attraction), Scary monsters.
Sometimes you have to laugh at it to keep from screaming. I'll keep you in my prayers.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
She sounds unstable at best and hopefully she is not a "bunny boiler" (Fatal Attraction).
I actually mentioned this to my H too, I know I talk to much, I discovered a lot through facebook and I was under the opionion things she was posting things to him through her status updats even before I knew about the phone calls. On the day that I saw him on the phone for the first time and he hung up with her then spent the entire day with me at the football game she posted how f'n depressed she was, the socre of the game and then a website full of poems(written after the supposed rape) about how she wanted to kill people who called her a who*e and blow up work ect. The poems were 10 years old but she felt the need to post them on that day. At the point he was still denying anything physical had happened with her I had him read them and asked if he thought that this person might hurt his daughter or I.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
My H's OW is also in need of rescuing. I'm not sure if there was abuse as a child, but she has depression issues and "was" a cutter (deliberate self-mutilation with razor blades) in HS. She has no self-esteem and sleeps with people even thought she doesn't "really" want to. While the A with my H was getting going, she was also sleeping with another guy! And my H was jealous and I was the bad person because I wasn't sympathetic. WTF?
At any rate, back to OW. I can't fathom what's so bad about her life. Her parents pay for everything, she's never had to work, she doesn't even have student loans!!! I have no idea what could be so wrong with her life that she needed to cut herself up, let alone go after someone she KNEW was married (we'd had her and her little sister over to our house).
But she has put my H on a pedastal because he takes care of her and buys her things and listens to her drama. I guess I'm just too self-sufficient.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
My H's OW is also in need of rescuing. I'm not sure if there was abuse as a child, but she has depression issues and "was" a cutter (deliberate self-mutilation with razor blades) in HS. She has no self-esteem and sleeps with people even thought she doesn't "really" want to. While the A with my H was getting going, she was also sleeping with another guy! And my H was jealous and I was the bad person because I wasn't sympathetic. WTF?
At any rate, back to OW. I can't fathom what's so bad about her life. Her parents pay for everything, she's never had to work, she doesn't even have student loans!!! I have no idea what could be so wrong with her life that she needed to cut herself up, let alone go after someone she KNEW was married (we'd had her and her little sister over to our house).
But she has put my H on a pedastal because he takes care of her and buys her things and listens to her drama. I guess I'm just too self-sufficient.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
