(((Sue))),

I just don't get these WAS and they're blindness to the injury they cause to the children and their relationship with them. It is just so unconscionable.

I feel so sorry for the kids. I also feel so sorry for these lost people, because one day they're going to wake up and realize they have lost something so very dear.

My W is not exactly rejecting or outright neglecting our two little boys, in fact she makes it a point to fight with me over them at times, but at the same time she is gradually withdrawing from them on a meaningful, quality time basis and as a "full-time" parent -- and is going to delegate more of her motherly duties/privileges (which she had taken so much joy in at one time) over to extended daycare, so she can continue to work more in her career. This is so very far from what either of us wanted for them when we planned and then started our family together, and it disappoints me even further, for the sake of my broken family and for each of my two small S's.


Me: 49
WAW: 47
S11, S7
Years Married/Together: 17/18
Bomb: 6/15/07
Separation: 7/6/07
D: 4/3/09

Real love is a decision.
Marriage is a commitment.