Help Me Act AS IF, Part 3

[Nature Girl]

But for the first time, I started to wonder if he's having an affair with this woman. I honestly don't think so, knowing him. He works in an industry with more women than men and has always had female friends. And as shi**y as he is being toward me lately, I do think he would not cross that line. Should I ask him directly?

lmg,

I know this will hurt to hear this, but I would have never guessed in a million gazillion years that my H "would cross that line". I'm not saying your H is having an A, but maybe you should prepare yourself for the possibility.

My H was being sh***y to me. I thought he was stressed at work. My bomb was me asking my H point blank if he was having an A. I was joking and using it as an opening to ask him why he had been treating me so bad for the past few months. His first answer to the A question was no, but ... I am unhappy, something is missing, etc., etc. (nothing related to work, it was all me). I was devastated, I had no clue there was anything wrong with our R. We talked about his unhappiness for the next two mornings and I never asked anything more about an A or an OW. Then at the end of the third morning's conversation, he said he was in love with another woman and that nothing physical had happened. And my story continues to this day almost a year later.

So, be careful what you ask if you aren't prepared for what he might say. And then again, you know he is in mlc, so he may not tell you the truth anyway.

(((hugs))) lmg. I know it isn't what you want to hear right now.