Nate - don't beat yourself up too much. I'm glad you're seeing what went wrong, so you can work on ways to fix it.

Wanted to comment on the very first part of that - the "rescue" leg. I see exactly what you mean in terms of the pattern that played out in your R. My question would be, though, if you're breaking that pattern of co-dependecy, would you CHOOSE someone who needs you to 'rescue' her?? My bet is, probably not. And please don't take 100% of the blame - remember that co-dependency takes BOTH of you.

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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