Questions or thoughts on other woman/man.

[Nature Girl]

Sandy,

I know where you are coming from, but please don't feel threatened by the OW! She really is nothing compared to you - look at what she is doing.

My H's OW is not someone you would say he is "affairing down" with - on the outside. From what I know of her, she must be fairly smart (went to law school after having her children), she is a few yrs. younger than me, and I have seen her and she is pretty. But I am smart, I don't care anything about age, I am pretty. I really feel sorry for her actually. I have never felt jealous of her. I used to think to myself, that her M must be abusive or something to have her going after a married man when she herself is married with kids. How could she consider doing that to her kids? I dont think that anymore. Back in my snooping days, some of the emails I saw showed me she is a very manipulative woman.

I have never said a bad word about her to my H and I never will. I pity her. It is funny because I don't pity my husband, I have compassion for him. Maybe I should for her too, but I don't right now.

I think, if through the end of all this, she does end up with my H and I don't, that I will still feel sorry for her, because she will be with a very broken man and she herself will be very broken. I on the other hand, will have taken the high road through it all and will have become an even better person who will always be growing.