Questions or thoughts on other woman/man.

[Sandyof5]

I know I have said, I refuse to give the OW much of my time and attention and by posting this I'm doing just that..lol

But bear with me here...a lot of you have mentioned the OW and they all seem to be "skanks" "ho's" "younger" "dumb" "insecure" "controling" "b*tches" and the list goes on..

I dont know a whole lot in regards to my husbands OW. Cept she is 41 hes 44. She is one of his managers and is very much of a woman of power so to speak. I know her H is older...I think I found out 52 ish. She is highly educated and has twin little girls. She has a high salary and she and my H have been friends for a long time..working on projects together over the years. I know in past he has mentioned her to me in casual conversation and said he was suprised how she was actually younger then him..as she seemed so much older..and the one time I did meet her ( waaaay before they ever started or thought of having an affair) she seemed much older then both my H and I .(We boh tend to seem younger than what we really are).

I dunno...I guess my question is...he doesnt seem to be "affairing down". I hear this so much and he claims they have everything in common and blah blah blah. They are sneaking around and as far as I know no one knows about this affair and he has told me a couple of times "if it got out we would lose our jobs" . So he gets all mean and nasty and spews his verbal vomit. Back to my question...I guess I DO feel threatened by her..if Im being honest. I feel like maybe she DOES relate better to my H..maybe she CAN give him something I cant? And yes I know my insecurity is showing..but I am being honest..sigh.

I have NOT stalked her, called her, emailed or contacted her in anyway shape or form and I wont..actaully I PRAY for her and her little girls and her family.

Thats all I can do. I amagine the sneaking around will get old. Im sure she can provide him with stuff and experiances he wont get from me..they travel A LOT and I know this has been the catalyst for his affair to blossom.

I have no idea what my question is..just more or less thinking outloud...but it doenst seem my H is "affairing down". Can anyone relate?

PS My counselor assures me she is not even close to the strong woman of character and morals that I am...which I know...but...