Ali,

Hang in there. A window may be closing, but that will only mean another one will be opening. You are an astrologist, you know that!

He is doing what you've wanted all along -- he is considering you in his everyday thoughts and plans. He is thinking of you. You are on his mind. That is good. That is positive.

I think you should plan a small get-away for yourself. I'm ok w/ your decision to ditch Berlin, but what about leaving your place and heading into the city or to a bed-and-breakfast or something for the weekend. It may help you to get out of the home you used to share for a little bit. The physical break may end up being very healthy for you.

As for me, I've decided to get out of town myself for a few days to just get away from the big, lonely house. I'm not concerned w/ what W thinks as I'm doing it for my benefit and not hers.

You may consider doing the same.

Finally, as for how long you will DB, that is up to you. You will know when or if it is time to hang it up. If you get to the point where you want to stop the DBing for good, just do it when you'll be sure there will be no second thoughts or regrets on your part. When and if you are truly ready, you will know.

Take care.
RTL


M:38; D: 6
Divorce Final: 10/6/08