NoCodes.. that's exactly it. Ow is now living her high school dream.. Whatever..
Have had more strange R and D conversations lately. I don't have time to go into them but, the fog is definately lifting and H is remorseful. His new life w/ow isn't the paradise that he expected but it's what he has chosen for himself. We can't go back ... the innocence of what our M was pre-A's is gone forever. Sad..
LO, I think we always think about the "one" that got away, but most of us don't act on it.
In high school I dated a boy and broke up with him because he was so jealous. Well, as soon as he started dating someone else, I was lovestruck again. I pursued but never got him back. I met my H and got over him, but still had feelings of what ifs for him.
Well, fast-forward to now. When I found out that my H was supposedly having an affair with his secretary I wanted to contact her H to find out if it was true. He had talked to my friend's BIL. I couldn't contact the BIL because I didn't want to cause problems with my friend. The OW's H ironically happened to be from the same litte town and was living there with his parents that my HS BF lived in. My ex BF was the only person I knew that might know how to get ahold of the OW's H parents.
Well, I contacted the HS BF. He wasn't able to help me on the phone number, but gave me a sympathetic ear. By the way he had been divorced 3 times! He called periodically to check on me. I found myself wondering if I could have feelings for him again, but talking to him I discovered that I had grown and he didn't seem to fit in my life anymore. So I guess what I'm trying to say is, I believe your H will soon figure out that there was a reason he and the old flame didn't work out back then and will soon find out that it won't work out now.
Hugs
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
