As for your R with your W, I dont know what to say. She sounds so lost and lacking in confidence. I just want you to know that from all of your writings, you sound like a well adjusted man and your W should consider herself lucky to be married to you. Maybe a small portion of your M problem is your fault, but I think most of the blame can be layed on some mental condition your W has. I think it is best to go as dark as you can with her for some time. It is so hard doing this with your D.
Well, I do have my fair share of problems - I'm not going to push this all back on my W. My W has a real difficulty with feeling unloved. Even last night she told me that she didn't really feel loved, just needed. Not specific to me - Been that way with all of her R's.
I can't put my finger on her real issue - Hopefully her therapist can help her work through it, but I really believe she needs medication to help her with the day to day. It doesn't seem like she has made any progress in the last 7 months in dealing with anything between us. Her way of dealing with it is to just run away and not face it.
I'm at home today, and W hasn't been on IM at all today. I don't even know if she made it to work.
Originally Posted By: KerryK
You probably should consider talking to a lawyer about what to do for a legal separation and custody if she goes the route of having OM move in.
Yeah - I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. Last time I talked to W, I told her I'd rather try to deal with it without having to spend money on a lawyer, and she said she'd see how things go. I don't get why she is so afraid of me taking D away all of a sudden - Makes no sense to me.
