I'm caught up w/ you and glad to know you have the kids at least a couple of set times a week. It is very obvious you are a wonderful, loving and caring father. Nice job on getting the "serious" morals talk in. My D and I had one of those when seh winged a little toy at me in the tub and hit me in the eye leaving a nice little bruise. You are always going to be a wonderful influence on your children as they grow to adults and well beyond.
I'm also glad to hear that ou were on the bike and the ankle is getting better. I stepped off a stair the wrong way when I was at Arlington Cemetary w/ the students in late January and my ankle was sore and purple for a good week. I hate getting old.
I also agree that the stress of the decision is taking a toll on both our W's. My W has been chronically sick throughout our relationship and marriage and I've stayed faithful and was always her support. I'm wondering how much OM will have to give to her when she's not as energetic or available as he'll want. She will continue to break down physically and I know OM is a man of little character, so I'm curious to see how long he's willing to wait or what he's willing to accept and swallow. My W will have more downs than ups by a long shot as that is her MO. Time will tell.
I too have heard that my W won't look to address ANYTHING until she hits rock bottom. I'm not sure what or when that will occur for my W, but I do know she's not liking her sitch now. She is very, very concerned about doing the parenting evaluation b/c she knows how it will end up -- we'll get 50/50 custody of D and she'll be forced to cooperate and compromise w/ me. She may also be wary of her medical history needing to be examined in this process as well, including her therapy notes. She'll lose her control and edge and it won't be too pretty for her.
Your W will be in the same boat as well very, very soon.
I'm glad you are noticing and being noticed by others as well. It is nice to know that your life isn't over and you are still attractive to the opposite sex. You'll know when and if it is right to start something new. You will make the best decision for you and your children.
You have shown to be a man of great character, so I have no doubts in where you'll end up in all this. I'm kind of looking at things in the same way -- not too much hope and wondering if I will ever be able to get past the saddness of it all as it is just such an unnecessary shame to have to endure this at all.
