Piecing...gosh this is hard ll

[a new 2moro]

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Lissie!!!! how sweet of you! you must bring m&m up to maine.

[a new 2moro]

H put the card i gave him up w/ the v-day cards.....we tape them to the cupboard. He really cant stop saying how much he liked that card. "I love you so much he says..." still no sex...and actually the long savory kisses have disappeared. that song clows to the left jokers to the right here i am stuck in the middle w. you.....

[Lissie]

How long has he been home now mamma?

I haven't read your entire story, b/c i feel like if I post about him I will lose it.

But i prayed this morning, so maybe I'll be ok talking about it.



Ok.

The Cow. Is there a boundary set? Like she needs to be out of the apt by________________________.

Can you do that in piecing? Or does that put them in that tunnel that has no cheese.

And.................

If you have not set this type of boundary before, if you do it now, can it be like a 180?

How about date stuff.

Maybe pick one day a week, to do some date stuff.

Maybe write some suggestions on a piece of paper, and put them in the box. The date box. And whatever gets picked out is what you will do.

There is this great book I read too

called the 10 second kiss. http://shopping.yahoo.com/p:10-Second%20...HNsawNib29rcw--

It is an easy read. I will mail it to you of you want let me know.

I know you are mourning the loss of your bubbie, and the pain that goes with all this home stuff too.

It is alot on your plate, thank God you are working, and get to focus on that too.

I am sorry this is hard, I believe that piecing, from what i have heard, from some of the peeps on this board, is super hard.

But so worth it in the long run, if there is honesty on both sides.

(((((((((((((sweetie)))))))))))

[yellowrose]

Lissie

That was a very good post. I too think that Patti needs to set some kind of boundries. Yes, piecing is hard but it does get alot better!!!!!!

Hang in there Patti!!!!!

Y

[brandnewday]

Lissie,
I will be in Maine in mid August for a week.
You should do a road trip and Maddie and Mia can be horsey riders together and sing ABBA songs and pretend they are in High School Musical.

[Tipper]

Brandnewday, YR, Lissie, & any other piecers:

I just wanted to drop in and excitedly say that I am now part of the piecers too.

My H just returned to reconcile our M for a second time (third if you count pre-bomb). I am having some major doubts, because it all seems just like the last time he returned to me and then left again anyways.

I shut my mouth and I don't bring up my hurt and pain at all, and he still seems to be in the middle of his Crisis (acting macho, wants to get tatoos, still hanging at the bar, ect...). I guess I am just afraid the nice things he's been saying wont last again.

He seems to think he is absolutely sure that this is what he wants and he is even bringing up having kids. I don't know what to think or how to feel (obviously, I don't want kids for a while after all I have been through with my H).

Any advice from you experienced posters would be great. I have a new thread in both the MLC forum and the Piecing Forum.
Thanks,
TIPPER

[Lissie]

Tipper bless your heart, but I'm not piecing, it sort of made me laugh to see my name up there, hee hee.

Javier will get a piece of my foot..__________________ oooooooooooopsies lent. Behave.

Congratulations Tipper, I am sure the piecing peeps will help you out, and in turn you will help them out.

Nice to read your post.

[a new 2moro]

ya know my back is killing me in ways it hasnt for years...the pain is short of debilitating ...stress?

[almosthopeful]

(((an2m))),

ya know my back is killing me in ways it hasnt for years...the pain is short of debilitating ...stress?

stress, maybe? stuffed emotions, maybe? I know you're not expressing your emotions to H right now, understandably, but they still have to get out somehow, right?

Do you do any strength training? that was the only thing that took away my back pain, and it worked even during the separation/D period.

Hugs,
AH

[MidwesternGirl]

Patti:

I've been having back problems too but I have been told it could be due to female issues. Doesn't bother me all the time though.