You will be ok no matter what the outcome of this is. You are strong and can take care of yourself. I have said this before and I really think your H feels inferior to you. As Jeff said, you (through no fault of your own) remind him of his failures and all the dreams he hasn't accomplished. Maybe he feels superior to OW...she sounds like a mess. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about this. He has to work through it. Maybe he will. One of the things my H said when he came back was that he realized that OW and her friends were the same type of people he hung out with when he was younger, before the AF, before he tried to make something of himself. He said they had no drive in life, had nothing to offer...they were just kind of "there", taking up space. Maybe as time goes on and your H sees that he is still not accomplishing these dreams of his...he will realize that you weren't holding him back. He needs some time to grow.
