Thanks Grace...He just said that the therapist isnt what he expected....but I dont think he will not listen to her. We will see.
He did text me today and told me he hoped I was feeling better. I feel like Im coming down with something. Was tired and achy last night, bit of a clogged throat..I hope its not the flu bug coming on....although I could use a few days off!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I cant seem to get much feed back from anybody lately....
kissak, that's a good sign! Think of it as no red flags drawing attention and you're doing good. It's lonely but isn't it nice to be out of the spotlight in a way?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Thanks WCW...I was beginning to think people here didnt want to talk to me....Thought to myself, maybe I am crazy? People dont like me. Just me.....I know or at least hope that isnt so!
I had a pretty quiet day. Nothing much to talk about. Cooked on my new grill tonight!! Burnt my food. SO...I'll get it. I will figure it out. My H always was the Grill cook! So, I have to learn. I still have alot to learn about everything....I was looking at my yard and how much work I have to do in soon. THANK GOODNESS my dad has his own business doing just that!! I will be giving him a call for help!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Things are sooo quiet, I almost cant stand it....I have no idea what is going on now. My H, me and the OW are all on our own now. No one is with anyone. H isnt really calling me or texting me anymore, just maybe a hope u have a good day or good morning, but that is it. I have nO idea what is going to happen now. I dont know if he still wants to try to work things out or anything and its driving me a little batty! I know, shouldnt obsess about it. Got lots to keep me busy. Its just that lately he seems so chipper....I wonder if he is happy that he has no committment to anyone now. He did say something however that made me feel what he was feeling. He said he would call OW and go see her, but he probably was giving himself false hope. I can understand that. When in the past I would call him and talk, it would make me feel like he wanted to talk to me....maybe he felt that way about the OW.
Im just rambling this morning....feeling lonely.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
STOP!!! You are obsessing...you have stayed wayyyyy too close to H's situation...you need to be okay with the process that is going on...if he seems chipper...good!...if he is on his own and happy with it...good!...maybe this is exactly what he needs to settle things with himself...
I can tell you it is also wayyyy to early to thinking about working things out...you both need to lay that down for now and just let things be...what would you do if he called and wanted to work things out now?...you need to think about this carefully...because to be quite honest for you guys to get through this crisis you will have to have time of NOT working on your R and working on yourselves...being okay with who YOU each are...not identifying yourself with the other...if he were to want to start working things now I can almost promise you that it would start another cycle you don't want to take...
So sit back...be patient...let him find himself and grow up...let him be happy with being on his own...this is the only way he can be happy with you eventually...it is a process...it does take time...and yes, feelings for OW will take time for him to fully process...for my H it took a few years and he didn't even spend as much time with her as your H has with his OW...you can't take this too personal or you will get lost in the junk of all of it...
Take care...keep busy...leave him alone...quit analyzing it all...allow the process to take place without trying to manipulate it....
Things are sooo quiet, I almost cant stand it....I have no idea what is going on now. My H, me and the OW are all on our own now. No one is with anyone. H isnt really calling me or texting me anymore, just maybe a hope u have a good day or good morning, but that is it.
Enjoy the peace and quiet. It's about time!
Originally Posted By: kissak
I have nO idea what is going to happen now. I dont know if he still wants to try to work things out or anything and its driving me a little batty! I know, shouldnt obsess about it.
Have you ever really known what is going to happen since the bomb dropped? Have any of us? It sounds like you don't have the expectations that you've had in the past and that has to be a good development.
...because to be quite honest for you guys to get through this crisis you will have to have time of NOT working on your R and working on yourselves...being okay with who YOU each are...not identifying yourself with the other...
Thank you Lin....I needed to hear that today.....Just needed some reassurance that things needed to be this way.
Im not obsessing as much as you think. I honestly can wake up in the mornings now and my H is not the first thing on my mind. To me, that is a MAJOR improvement on detaching some. I guess a part of me thought he would come running back to me when it was over with the OW...now I see that was just wishful thinking and would only continue the cycle. Things are good right now.
He is getting the kids for an hour this afternoon. He is going to take them out for supper since he werent able to spend his usual night with them. AND he is getting them Saturday afternoon and letting them spend the night with him and it isnt even his weekend!! I am pleased to see the changes in him in regards to the kids.
Where is my patience!?? IMP, have you seen it anywhere???!!!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I will be up that way to get some of that patience!!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
